#him unknowingly going in some way or another by the one thats mine but also mixed with the one that isnt

[thecherrygod]

...sometimes i remember my ex with who i broke up with when i was 15 and how some things he said didnt sound very cis guy of him like there was some clear gnc to him which is partially why i liked him at the time i wont lie lmao one of the things was like "if i was a girl id like to be called this name" and he refused to be called his first name as much as he could, he was okay with his middle name... which when shortened its gender neutral (and its.. sort of the name i took for myself when first realizing im trans, almost.) and his name on fb wasnt even a name either it was a type of mythical being.

so i remembered some of this stuff and a bit more and im like "ok i am still mad at him for sure but what is he doing hows it going is he still gnc is there something else going on i need to know"

i dont exactly have answers i wont lie but i did find him. with a name that isnt any ive heard him consider when we knew each other.

its. the first two letters of my birth name. irl i go by the first letter of it.

[nukaworld]

Gage or Ulysses for the breakdown thing?

GIVE ME A CHARACTER;

and I’ll break their ass down:

Ulysses

Done and done here! 

Porter Gage

How I feel about this character

Not going to lie I really hated Gage at first, thanks to that horrible Greston fic. And to be fair I am not overly fond of pure canon Gage either even though mine is really 90% canon and that 10% my Disney flavor of making him a bit more likable and redeemable as a character. Gage has an interesting place in my heart because I don’t like for him the way I like all my other faves, I like him for his relationships with the other characters (Tracie in particular) which is why I started liking him behind Natalie’s back in the first place (oops)

All the people I ship romantically with this character

Eeeeh I don’t really ship Gage romantically. I mean I do with Natalie and my still underdeveloped character with the placeholder name of Farmer (Market) Boyfriend! Otherwise Gage/M!Sole and Gage/M!OC are great and I like those! Also I don’t ship him with Colter, but I acknowledge that they most definetly fucked in canon and there is no way around it. I just think Colter is an idiot.

My non-romantic OTP for this character

OH COME ON! LIKE YOU GOTTA ASK! YOU KNOW! YOU KNOOOOW! Tracie and Gage :> I really love their dynamics because Tracie has a good and pure heart and she loves everyone in this innocent way and I am sure that catches Gage off guard given how he has no friends and he hates people (and everyone hates him). And I am sure that Gage starts to genuinely care for Tracie even if he won’t admit it and he is unknowingly nice to her because most people don’t understand Tracie’s way of thinking and speaking and consider her stupid and he doesn’t, he just rolls with it, sure he thinks her drawings on that map are silly but he doesn’t really put her down for it, I am pretty sure he is more irritated she doesn’t want to be a raider than he is over how she took hours to make little paper craft figures of the raider bosses. I wish things between them didn’t go down the way they did, but I promise there is a Gage redemption arc and I am 90% sure Tracie will forgive him and that drawing where they hug, thats canon!

My unpopular opinion about this character

Ugh this I say over and over but I hate, hate, HATE the depictions of Gage as some dominant, badboy, violent misogynist into BDSM because literally there is 0 evidence for that characterization for him in canon except for the fact that he is a raider. And I hate that people can’t imagine raiders to not be violent misogynists. Gage, when it comes to emotions is very emotional he just hasn’t really been close to people since Connor so he doesn’t like expressing it. You can tell by his dialogue and his romance dialogues that he is in fact pretty emotional and in his romance he is very much timid, polite and even submissive. He is only loud when he is fighting otherwise in friendly or romantic interactions he has a more gentle and polite tone. I think people really overlook this aspect of Gage and they stereotype him as the emotionless asshole when he is an emotional asshole. I’m not saying he isn’t bad, I am saying he isn’t emotionless and he is very much capable of loving another person and this is far more interesting than if he was just a gun toting violent raider.

One thing I wish would happen / had happened with this character in canon.

For him to get a redemption arc and with max affinity to be able to be convinced by the Sole Survivor to leave Nuka World and/or the raider life, and be spared. If not that then I want him to be the main antagonist of Nuka World and be that final boss. I just feel like you get to meet him, you can travel with him and interact with him and then without any kind of closure just shoot him like you would shoot any other raider. It’s not a nice character arc for him at all. 

[tebbydear-movedblogs]

All for the gay ask

ALL??? this is a lot so its under the cut. anyone who wants to learn Too Much about me can check it out ! (psst i tag @sonshine-de-la-vega @inthheightlive and @theamazingjaybird i love you guys)

1. describe your idea of a perfect datehhhmmm a cafe? im cliche,, just somewhere nice like a movie or for lunch so we can talk and have a nice time

2. whats your “type”All Girls Are So Good. like shit man. small petite girls make my heart go crazy but big buff girls make me wanna scream idk tall girls who could rest their head on my head man big soft girls with lotsa chub i will cry all girls are my type lmaooowhen it comes to guys,,, like,, idk. some of them are cute but idk. :|

3. do you want kids?im not sure! i dont Hate kids but im terrified of being a bad mum like my own,, and i think ‘aunt’ suits me better. i cant really see myself as a mother- but that could change in the future

4. if you do, will you adopt or use some other form of child birth?i think that depends on who my partner is! like if they wanted to carry, or if it was possible for us to conceive traditionally,,, who knows!

5. describe the cutest date you’ve ever been oni have never been on a date bc i am gross and will never find love !!!

6. describe your experience having sex for the first time (were you nervous? or was it easy peasy?)see above!!! the idea of it terrifies me

7. are you a morning time gay or night time gay?i like both !! but i am always so tired during both. im like an afternoon person

8. opinion on nap dates?Good Stuff

9. opinion on brown eyes?beautiful !!!! especially when paired with dark hair and dark skin like fuck me up- but i think my own are ugly tho

10. dog gay or cat gay?CAT CAT CAT. i dont Dislike dogs but they make me nervous, too much energy and too Heavy and Big. I love kitters so much. so much u dont understand. cats literally keep me on this earth

11. would you ever date someone who owned rodents or reptiles?yeah totally !!! why is this a question?? are the good sneks that much of a turn off?? (so long as they treat them well obviously)

12. whats a turn off you look for before you start officially dating someoneas seen above,, i dont have much experience with this- but id look at how they treat other people. if theyre intolerant or like,, just needlessly mean to people?? thats definitely a dealbreaker.

13. what is a misconception you had about lgb people before you realized you were one?idk ! i never really thought about it and i mostly thought they were not bad but very alien,, like that could never be Me u know, or anyone i knew. but like i say it never really crossed my mind until i joined tumblr

14. what is a piece of advice you would give to your younger selfoh boy. u think ur sad Now.gurlbut also- its ok that u think that girl is cute. its gonna be ok. u dont need to be scared. loving girls is Great and ur gonna know that soon.

15. (if attracted to more than one gender) do you have different “types” for different genders?not really! i remember being attracted to more feminine guys which i now know was my brain going !butch lady! lmaoo

16. who is an ex you regret?never dated !!!!! i am unloveable!!!

17. night club gay or cafe gay?cafe!!! clubs scare me and i dont drink

18. who is one person you would “go straight” foranthony ramos

19. video game gay, book gay, or movie gay?movie gay !! i love movieees

20. favourite gay ship (canon or not)yall know me,,, sonny/graffiti pete from in the heights dominate my writing rn

21. favourite gay youtubertie between macdoesit and mileschronicles !!!

22. have you ever unknowingly asked out a straight person?never asked anyone out !!! that sounds like Social Interaction to me

23. have you ever been in love?yes

24. have you ever been heartbroken?yes

25. how do you determine if you want to be them or be with someoneidk i like,, imagine going on a date with them?? imagine how id feel if they were dating someone else??

26. favourite lgbt musician/bandhayley kiyoko!

27. what is a piece of advice you have for young / baby gaysthere is nothing wrong with what youre feeling. youre going to be ok- there is nothing wrong or dirty or dangerous about the way that you love. there will be people who dont accept you. fuck em. you are amazing

28. are you out? if so how did you come outim sort of out to friends? i dont really have a label for my sexuality so  its hard. but ppl know i like girls, i just kinda mentioned it and let ppl get used to it

29. what is the most uncomfortable / strange coming out experience you have i dont really have one! i have one for another person tho- a friend of mine made a group chat and came out,, we were all being supportive and shit but then this One Girl,, who we already knew was a Good Homophobic Christian Girl,, typed out a whole long paragraph about how she doesnt hate him!! but his lifestyle is wrong,, like,, it was copypasta material

30. what is a piece of advice for people who may not be in a safe place to express their sexualityit will get better. if you dont have people in your life who love you for who you are now, im so sorry, but know that there are so many people out there who will love you and accept you and everything is going to get so much better

[therealestatesparkblog]

5 Tips for Tackling Your Life With a Warrior Spirit

This weekend a dear friend of mine warrior, UFC fighter James Krause will be throwing down in Lincoln, Nebraska. I have come to know James well, not only as a professional athlete, but through the MMA gym he owns and often coaches at. James is also a visionary when it comes to business and his budding real estate investing empire. For two years I have been training with my personal coach Trey, James, and the many other amateurs and professional fighters in the gym. Ive come to learn some real ground and striking skills. Ive met amazing, talented athletes to train with. And realized there is quite the different between watching it on TV and thinking you understand and being in the midst of a sparring session. Training is Not For the Light-Hearted, or Easily Deterred There are very real, immediate, and potentially severe consequences from training. Ive broken toes from kicking someones knee at full speed. There were times I had massive bruises and difficulty walking for multiple days from being repeatedly kicked in the thigh and the side hard. Idislocated my jaw when I was choked across my chin. After all, the point of training is to get good at kicking, punching, kneeing, and choking another human being. I believe the factors and effort it takes to become great at martial arts shares principals that directly relate to real estate. Lets explore connecting mixed martial arts, professional fighters, the mastery of something, and how it intersects with real estate. Principal 1. Understand the Game Ever been to a sporting event and you didnt know the rules of the game? For me, watching rugby is like watching a bunch of men in funny suits who dont know how to play football throwing a misshaped football. I DONT KNOW THE RULES! (Sorry, rugby fans!) In MMA, there are a specific set of basics on how to throw a punch, how to throw, how to defend yourself from kicks, or get out of a particular submission. Ways to put together combinations in striking, or setup take downs. There are also specific rules you must follow as a fighter both standing, in transition, and on the ground. These rules have to be followed or you can lose points or even be disqualified in a fight. Just like in real estate, when pressure is applied to a live situation, you will go to your default. To what you have trained or done the most of. The fighter must train in real time, with real pressure. Without repeated effort and focus, in a live situation, with adrenaline and a real opponent in front of you, your default will be panic instead of a sound defense or counter. In real estate, if you want to accomplish buying rentals or flipping a property, you have to understand the game. What are the legal rules of putting this contract together? How does it work buying from a wholesaler or an auction at the court house steps? There are real, serious, consequences to not understanding the game. Talking about a punch in the gut I can tell you, it hurts (both physically and mentally). Not knowing the game in real estate can cost you money, headaches, a lawsuit. It can financially ruin someone who hasnt understood the rules and hasnt done their home work. Related:Why the Small, Seemingly Insignificant Actions You Perform Daily Are VITAL to Your Success Principal 2. Show up and Put In the Work From what I understand the average black belt in jui-jitsu has been working steadily at the craft for 10, 12, 15+ years. Sure, there are people who have a high aptitude or have worked extraordinarily hard to accomplish this sooner. But it still take many years. If you have never trained, it may be hard to understand. But let me try to paint the picture for you: As a white belt (which I am), most of my time in class is spent learning skills and then defending myself, trying not to get arm locked or choked out. This takes patience. And a willingness to be uncomfortable. At first, with someone smothering you with their weight, or an elbow in your midsection, you FREAK. You cant breathe. Its hard to understand what is happening without understanding the basic concepts of offensive and defensive positions. Over time, you start to develop some skills. More defense. Higher stamina. You can control your breathing. You start to use techniques instead of trying to muscle out of a problem (which doesnt usually work). These skills are practiced, honed, worked, thousands and thousands of times until they can be executed without conscience effort. As you gain these skills, it becomes second nature to understand the situation and take action armed with the necessary tools, talents, and techniques. The professionals in our gym are there every day often multiple times a day. Their skills and abilities arent luck. They are the product of their time, effort and practice, of their craft. Sound familiar? Real estate is no different. You have to put the work in, learn how construction works and the details within it. You need to know how to put a rental deal together and understand a secondary note. Buying SFRs versus apartments. As you learn skills, moreskills and details appear that you didnt know existed. Not less. These skills become the backbone of your real estate game. Just like your martial arts game. Its the pieces that put together the whole. Principal 3. Know and Work on Your Strengths, and Understand and Defend Your Weaknesses As an MMA fan, I have seen incredible fights over the years in the UFC and beyond. To a new viewer, it may seem that there are two people trying to beat the crap out of each other. Although this does happen, there are SO many aspects to the game beyond just being in a boxing type brawl, two people just trying to hurt each other. One opponent might be a great wrestler even a college, world, or olympic champion. Some are incredible jiu-jitsu players with tricky submissions and ground game. Others are tactical strikers, kick boxers, Muay Thai champions, and some are just freak athletes, cardio and stamina with an engine to outlast a storm and keep fighting. There is also a real mental game both internally and outwardly toward your opponent. The more well rounded you are as an athlete in each of these areas, the better your overall MMA game will be and the more easily youll be able to transition between skills and observe and understand the opponent in front of you. You can more easily recognize both problems and opportunities within the fight.

When other fighters and coaches break down a future opponent, they look for patterns. For weakness, like emotional strain after getting hit or taken down. Where are the holes in their game? What is the best way to get after this opponent? For some, it may be a lack of skill in wrestling, so you would practice setting up take downs with striking. Or maybe someone always likes to counter with a certain punch, so you practice over and over feinting a certain strike to set the conditions you can get your opponent to react to, and you use that opportunity to your advantage. In a real estate negotiation, do you unknowingly show your cards? Or choke in a negotiation when you were about to get the numbers you wanted but you didnt read the other parties cues? Have you practiced over and over how to pitch a sale or a purchase? Reviewed your personality and worked on the areas of your business that arent strong? If you are great at building rapport in person, stop trying to close the sale on the phone. Get to the house or meet up with the other party. If you arent very familiar with a particular type of deal, dont try to negotiate it immediately without all the information. Call a friend or mentor who KNOWS and does those types of deals. Work through how to do it. Sometimes its better to pass on an opportunity if you cant understand it rather than say YES and then get into a deal or property you dont understand. Related:From Wholesaling to Hoarder House Flips: 17 MUST-Read Real Estate Investing Success Stories Principal 4. There is No Replacement For the Real Thing When I first started training, my coach Trey and I worked on throwing a few basic punches and kicks. He would call out the numbers, and then I would be expected to throw or kick that punch. At first, we would do single punches or small combinations of just one or two together. We worked constantly on refining the way I threw a punch. The way my body or head moved as I threw a right hand, or a left. I distinctly remember him saying, Soon Ill throw out five or 10 different things together and you will just do it. At the time, more than a few combinations would literally break me mentally, and Id have to slow down or have him repeat these many times over. It was exhausting. But over time, it became second nature to throw or punch. Trey could help me refine a punch while working on multiple other things at the same time. There is NO replacement for putting in the work, for doing the reps. At this point, I am reasonably effective sparring against some of the amateurs in our gym. Its a constant process of refinement, practice, and DOING the work. You cant replicate the speed and timing of sparring in a live situation. Thats why we practice reps, scenarios, and combinations, over and over. In my business, Ive completed hundreds of real estate transactions over more than a decade and negotiated tens of million of dollars of real estate deals. Im well compensated coaching other real estate investors who want to grow as leaders and operators in the single-family space. BUT, to this day I still study, grow, learn new tactics, timing, realizations, breakthroughs, and opportunities in every transaction. The learning is constant and comes with time and experience. AND, with continuous work on your craft. You have to operate at real speed. In real deals. With real money and opportunity at stake. Principal 5. Have a Killer Team in Your Corner This weekend, James will have an incredible group of people around him. They are there not only to get him safely through his weight cut, but to make sure he is hydrated and his nutrition is on point. Theyll help him keep his head in the game and not go stir crazy. They will train with him and keep him sharp without getting him injured prior to the fight. When it comes time for the fight, the corner will call out things they see in real time. Like what the opponent is doing, what combinations to throw, how to get out of a nasty spot against the cage, and opportunities he may not see in the moment. Youre corner literally has your back in the midst of a fist fight. Having this level of trust and confidence in your corner isnt just a given. Its learned and earned. It comes over time. And with experience and practice. Does what they tell you makes sense? Do you understand it? And can you can effectively do it in the moment? It has to work together seamlessly. This has so many direct similarities to real estate. Not sure on the value of that project? You call a realtor you trust. Or if the title is clean, you go to your title company to do the research. In my business, my partner is so much better at the tracking of money and figuring out follow up systems. If Im not sure what to do in a situation, or how to implement an idea, I go to him. My team in our construction, sales, and acquisitions. My business partner. Close mentors and friends in the real estate world Ive built relationships with over time. Our title companies, contractors, attorneys, inspectors, and appraisers, that weve worked with time after time. This is MY real estate CORNER. Final Thoughts First, Get some, James! Lets go! You inspire me on the level of training, dedication, mastery, skill, and success in your sport. Im in your corner, and Ill be screaming and yelling for your success this weekend. Second, if youve made it this far, dear readyWHO do you have in YOUR corner? Where are the gaps? What are you missing in your life, your business, your MMA game? Do y0u need more or different people in your corner? Are you cutting corners in your success? Or are you putting in the work? And do you have the team around you helping you get better, who has your back, but who also can call out what they see even if its about YOU? Its time to take action with the warrior spirit. Apply that level of effort, level of tactics, emotion, and repetitions, and get after it.

What tips do you have for getting after your goals? Share them in the comments below! https://www.biggerpockets.com/renewsblog/tackling-life-warrior-spirit